Jewells of Thought

Over the last few days I have noticed some moments. Yesterday as I mentioned in my Sunday article was hunted down by Ms. Carol specifically not just once but twice. I missed one Sunday and I forget how much she likes her companion on Sunday nights. I did get a couple of hugs out of it though and time with a sweet friend.

Love’s essence takes shape in different ways. This afternoon I drove my mom and uncle to a funeral home for a viewing. My family has known this family since I was a teenager, but I remember the couple more than the children. I was older than both of them I believe. Just a couple of years ago this couple came to Grandma Rosemary’s Celebration of Life I think I may have photos of them. I took a lot of them.

The love of this family showed through as we observed some grandchildren distracting Grandma when she needed them to. I have always believed kids are necessary during a funeral to show that life and love will continue with these little ones.

So what does that look like on the contrary side? Why would you have to buy love? What kind of person thinks money will gain them genuine affection and love?

I have seen what respect and genuine affection looks like. I have seen funeral homes lined out the door for what seems like forever, to pay their respects to a family. Birthday parties too. When someone has a good heart they can’t but show the light God Has given them in the fruits of their services or ministries.

Wanting love and showing love doesn’t require money. It requires that time be spent with people. God’s greatest commandment is to ‘Love One Another’. To want love requires that you give with love first. God, your creator loved you from the beginning and we don’t have to ask for, it He gives it willingly. The question is will you love Him back and serve Him in return.

Another big stretch today came from a comment made by my boyfriend. The words stopped me a bit. He was talking about someone else he knows that was buying love around a person and comparing that person to me who was genuinely loved by everyone. He is a little biased, but he was in the ballpark of comparing the two of us. The other person has this dark aura about her and literally buys whatever manufactured love she can retrieve. It is a sorry state of affairs and yet when church is not in a person’s life and their priorities do not match up with believers they do what they have to gain some sort of acceptance when they can’t any other way.

Love isn’t something to be bartered with; God’s love is unconditional.

My relationship with Bryan has taken years for us individually to be able to accept this idea and then 3 more years to know we are fiercely and unconditionally in love. This connection is the most genuine and fulfilling love besides God’s love I have ever felt. The precious time we have spent conversing and getting to know each other on such deep personal levels has been incredible I want to know more about this man in person and about the family I will be part of one day.

I have found it quite offensive when marriages happen and the woman seems to think her family is the only family that matters. You don’t see this with the men normally I have always wanted to enjoy my whole family together with my parents and his. Knowing that can’t happen still hurts me when I haven’t even met them, but I already love and miss them.

Love means opening your heart to the good and bad. You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. So again what does it say when you have to buy your friends?